In HEALTHY MIND on
August 24, 2016

How we let things ruin us

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This past weekend we decided to go to the Farmer’s Market for the morning, get breakfast, and then go look at some houses while we were out and about. Instead of us having this picturesque picnic in the park after getting fresh croissants and flowers, we had a giant muffin on a park bench with a wild 1 1/2 year old running around. When I wanted to take pictures with her beside a beautiful brick wall, she had other ideas. (Go back and look at those pictures, it’s really quite humorous) When we were about to leave, we realized we had left her bunny, yes THE bunny under the park bench, so I had to run back in hopes of her being there still. (Don’t worry, she was) When we wanted to go look at apartments, we realized Goodman didn’t have his license so we couldn’t. So then we decided to look at some houses, and it started pouring.

A year ago, even 6 months ago, those incidents would have wrecked me. They would have sent me into a pitiful mood where I talked about how things didn’t ever seem to work out how I hoped they would. Instead of being able to see the good in the day despite the bad, I would only see the disappointment. Frustrations. Unmet expectations.

Yes, hate me. That is so self-centered and immature, but it’s the truth. I used to have the hardest time pulling myself out of the pits. Out of a situation that was less than ideal. And actually, I would tend to pull so far as to make it more dramatic than it even was. I can’t even begin to tell you how many dates I have ruined because of this. I let the ugliness of my heart take over, and once I do that, it takes a lot to capture it back.

I have had to learn to change my expectations and realizations very quick. If I don’t and something doesn’t meet the fairytale in my head, I end up ruining every sliver of fun that we could have. Through much trial and error, I have had to learn to try to take what sometimes kind of sucks, and see the fun, beauty, or humor in it. Because let’s be honest, life is not picturesque. Life doesn’t wait for us to have all our ducks in a row.

I say all of this because this is something I have to work at EVERY SINGLE day. Every day there are things that happen that could send me into a downward spiral, and trust me, too often I fall prey to that. Some days I call Goodman and just tell him that I can’t get motivated. I don’t feel worthy. I don’t feel good at anything. Just the other day I called him. The house was a mess, I had schoolwork, emails, blogging, relationships, and everything you can think of that had to be tended to. I told him that I just couldn’t bring myself to do anything. I didn’t know where to start. I didn’t want to start on anything quite honestly.

You know what he told me to do? He said,

“Why don’t you just go out into the garage and paint something? Do something you enjoy and then go back and try to get focused on just one thing at a time.”

Instead of fixating on the bad, the to-do list, the ugly, why don’t I go create something beautiful. Make something that I feel good about so that I can find it in myself to move forward in other areas. It was the best advice I could have been given. Instead of wishing the day looked differently, see the good in the day that I do have. And if there isn’t any, make some. Do some.

Our Saturday could have easily been ruined. It sure didn’t look like I hoped it would, but thankfully, we were able to enjoy what we were given. We talked about the independence in our daughter. Talked about where her feistiness will take her. We enjoyed our muffins with the pre-storm breeze in the park. We came home, watched a movie, and snuggled during the thunderstorm. We set the tone for our day, and didn’t let incidentals change that or taint it. And I’ll be honest, I owe a lot of that to Goodman.

So I want to challenge you. Next time life doesn’t meet your expectations, or you feel so overwhelmed with what has been given to you, just stop. Find something you enjoy, and do it. Do something that will make you feel good. Something that will bring you out of the slump. Then, try to use that momentum for the good. Whether it is finding a good coffee shop to help get you through the tantrums of the day, buying yourself some flowers,  or reading a good book. We all need more good in our days, and I think not making time for it is what is hurting us the most.

So now I am going to go make myself a good cup of coffee and open a book. Happy hump day!

 

In HEALTHY LIFE on
August 22, 2016

Sister’s Cookbook

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So every summer some of my sisters and I take a trip to Cocoa Beach for a long weekend. I wrote more about this past year’s trip here if you want to read more about it.

One of the best things we do during this trip, is we team up and each team of 2 cooks once during the trip. That also means that you only have to do dishes once during the trip. After it’s all said and done, you’ve only had to cook and clean up after one dinner, and then you are waited on the rest of the week! It’s great, because we end up saving a lot of money by not eating out every night, we always have incredible meals, and it doesn’t feel like a chore to cook because you have one person to do it with, and you only have to do it once. It’s the best system.

We always say that it is a competition, and we like to keep our meals a secret until we present them to the group, but we always end up oohing and ahhing over every dish and never actually end up voting on them. We also always say that we want to make a Sister cookbook with all the recipes, so I figured I would at least start with the recipes from this year!

Hope you all enjoy. They are killer.

Night 1:

Moroccan Fish with Mango & Couscous with a Creamy Kale Caesar Salad

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Night 2:

Chicken and Cheese Tostadas with a  Corn and Black Bean Salad

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Night 3:

Grilled Chimmichurri Steak and Shrimp with Mexican Street Corn and Sweet Potato Fries and aioli

  • Marinate the steak and shrimp in some of the chimmichurri sauce, and then after grilling drizzle some over the top
  • We (and by we, I mean Lydia. She is a whiz in the kitchen) made the aioli with sour cream instead of mayonnaise, and added some of the chimmichurri sauce to the aioli. It was literally perfection.

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Brunch:

Strawberry and Cream Crepes with Sausage Patties and Scrambled Eggs

  • They did not use the orange liqueur that the recipe calls for. It was just the closest recipe I could find to share!
  • Oh and we also had mimosas 😉

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Let’s just say that we know how to do food. It’s so fun to share our different tastes and recipes with one another once a year and be able to serve each other in the meantime.

*Photography by Abigail Peyton